A Fresh Start

Fresh Start

The amazing thing about life is that every day is an opportunity to start fresh.

Even though the past tags along as part and parcel of who I am, I’m not bound to live like I did yesterday, nor am I one to dwell on it.

Certainly a little evaluation or introspection is involved before leaping into today — what worked vs. what didn’t — but that thought process lasts about as long as my first cup of coffee. Life goes on and I want to be part of it asap.

Gratitude also aids and abets forward motion. It’s impossible to be grumpy and grateful simultaneously. Choose grateful.

On August 17th my Sweet Sis, Laurie, died unexpectedly after an aneurysm on her heart burst. It was an undetectable anomaly, a quirk, a fluke — and evidence that ‘you never know when.’ (She was riding her Harley at the time.) Such was my Sis.

During the past two weeks I witnessed what a huge impact one life can have on others. Family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, church members, classmates, fellow-bikers, and more came forward to express their grief and joy, and I marveled at how ‘famous’ my sister’s smiles and hugs had become.

In a way, it didn’t surprise me. When you make up your mind to be a blessing, the ripple effect spreads far and wide. Each and every one of us has the potential to create a ripple and none of our actions are insignificant. What we “do” today influences life… and lives.

For me, that means a renewed sense of purpose. Vigorous and vibrant living. Making the most of moments. Helping somebody else. A fresh start every morning.

I can’t tell you how grateful I am to have experienced the wonder of my one & only Sis — and you. She would have loved you all.

Enjoying fresh starts,

© 2014 Kim Bultman and a little lunch

31 thoughts on “A Fresh Start

  1. Kim… just finding this now. My deepest condolences to you and your family at the loss of such a special gal. And wow… has she left many YOU with such a potent GIFT of Life! and this is the ironic twist with Death ever-present, yet oft taken for granted… that in its presence we are awakened to the profound treasure that life is. Such a gift… it has now touched me. <3

  2. “It’s impossible to be grumpy and grateful simultaneously. Choose grateful.” – Such powerful words! Such wisdom and kindness all over your post! This post of yours touched my heart.

    May Almighty God grant your sister eternal peace and happiness.

  3. Dearest Kim,
    Mark was up at Pine Haven for Ministry Camp, when word came that a beautiful gal died unexpectedly on her ride home from motorcycle week end. We had no idea she was your little sis, Laurie. I am so sorry for your loss. I know what it feels like to lose a younger sibling, suddenly and unexpectedly. I pray you will be comforted by friends and that time will heal. David has been gone 6 years and I am only just now able to talk about him without tears-most of the time. God uses tears and time to heal-don’t be afraid to keep tears coming. Love you! Mary

  4. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. What a terrible and tragic situation. My first boyfriend died in very similar circumstances when he was 16. He was riding a push bike. I’m sure it would be very difficult to recover from the passing of a sister so I hope you are surviving this very difficult time xx

  5. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. It sounds as if she truly touched people’s lives and I can feel the sadness you are experiencing now. I love your comment about the ripples we all create and how even one smile to a stranger can positively affect their day. It’s so much easier to have friends than enemies and happiness over anger that I’m not sure why some people would want to chose negative energy over positive. I send you hugs and good wishes and hope that you can always remember your sister for the happiness she brought to many.

  6. Dearest Kim, I read this with such sadness and my heart goes out sincerely to you and your family. Words cannot ease your loss, so I’m sending big loving hugs (I’ve lost both my older brothers, who died too young)… take care of yourself too and celebrate Laurie’s life… may she long live on in your heart xox

  7. Sending big hugs and lots of love your way although I know they are but a drop in the bucket when facing such a loss. “When you make up your mind to be a blessing”…it really is as simple as that, isn’t it? Lucky for Laurie’s friends and family she figured that out.

  8. Dear Kim, Allan and I extend our sincere sympathy in your loss. We, too, have only one sister apiece and can only imagine what life would have been had we lost either of them. I know you can create a beautiful piece of music in remembrance of your love for her. Our hearts ache for your loss. Allan and Alice

  9. My heart broke just reading your post. I am so sorry for your loss. The special bond you have with your sister will continue, though the hole in your heart will remain. Sending prayers and hugs.

  10. Oh Kim I’m so sorry for your loss! I can’t imagine losing one of my sisters, especially if there was only one of them. She sounds like she did well with her time on Earth and that is always a balm when someone is gone b/c there isn’t the tragedy of a life wasted. She sounds like she was a true gem, just like you. <3

  11. It is with heart felt tears, Kim, that I read your post. I am so sorry you had to suffer such a loss. I lost my oldest brother a few years ago and I still miss him terribly. You can ask all the questions, why and why now, but in the end one must accept and move on, but you will never forget. I hold you and your family in my heart and prayers. I am sorry I never got to meet her as she sounds as special as you. Sending love, Jeanne

  12. You are everyday and night on my mind, sweet cuz. You were both so special, and her early leaving made me realize that life is to short to bypass those gentle nudges to stop and see someone, say a special something to someone and stop before I might say something I will later regret. Love you much and take time for yourself.

    • Dear cuz Jeanne, I enjoyed every bite of those fresh green beans, cherry tomatoes, and heirloom tomatoes out of your garden and can’t thank you enuf for sharing them (an appropriate photo for this post) and for your visits, xo. Laurie would have loved ’em too!

  13. I am so sorry for your loss, Kim. My heart hurts for you. It certainly sounds like your sister was a gem…what a blessing to have her in your life. It is amazing when someone leaves us, how we get to see who they touched, things we may never have known while they were here. Blessings and peace on you and yours. You will be in my prayers.


  14. My condolences my friend. I am so sorry for your unexpected loss, if your sister was even half the person you are (though I know she was much more than that), she must have been amazing. Sending lots of hugs your way, and take all the time you need, a fresh start is the way to go. But your memories must be sweet so hold them close.


  15. Deepest condolences, Kim. I can only imagine the void in your heart right now as you bid farewell to your beloved sister. Take good care my friend. Sending healing thoughts and prayers your way. Warmly, Sue Ann

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